A promise of a “badge” for exercising more with the Peloton app could motivate you when you might otherwise feel lazy, Alter said. But if you’re so motivated by rewards that you ignore signs your body needs a rest, then it might be an unhealthy compulsion.
You might say to your boyfriend, for example, that he disappears into his phone every time you have a conversation.
Build in ‘cheat days’
For three years, Alter said he was compulsive about running 100 miles a month — even squeezing in late-night jogs on his treadmill and running through injuries. He was forced to step back after a recent illness.
Alter said he felt relief from his forced break. Doing your favorite activity without a goal can be liberating, he said. It can also help to schedule days off from our habits — whether it’s running, reading the news or scrolling Instagram.
Alter called these scheduled breaks “cheat days,” like a day off from a strict diet.
This kind of self-trickery isn’t intended for people who have a more serious unhealthy tech habit that is similar to drug or alcohol addiction.
Lembke said that when she treats people with addictions to video games or apps, she recommends a one-month abstention. That’s sufficient time to reset the cycle of reward and pain from a digital addiction that warps our brains.
A one-month break might not be possible or necessary for your tech habit. Lembke suggested that a day or a week off might help.
When you pick up that activity again, make a specific plan for yourself. If Twitter is a problem for you, you might decide that you’re fine using Facebook but not Twitter. Or you might choose to stop using your phone entirely at 6 o’clock each night.
Schedule a limited amount of time for your habit
Especially for young people, it can be helpful to plan in advance activities that might be a distraction, Eyal said.
Eyal said that if your teen knows he’s allowed one hour on YouTube at 7 p.m., then he can relax without ruminating on when he’ll be able to hop on his favorite app.
Eyal said he takes about 10 minutes each Sunday to block time on his weekly calendar for work obligations, family time, and activities like reading a book or exercising. There are even four hours booked each weekend for “planned spontaneity” with his family to make sure that time isn’t interrupted.
What about digital timers?
Your iPhone or Android phone tracks how much time you spend using specific apps and lets you set time limits. TikTok recently added a pop-up notification for teens who spend more than an hour a day with the app.
Lembke said those features are not effective at cutting the amount of time we spend with an app habit.
Curbing tech overuse can’t be only your responsibility
Lembke said that tech companies, schools, social institutions and governments all have a responsibility to help reset norms about technology use.
“If we just leave it to individuals or parents, that’s crazy. That’s too much on the individual,” she said.
“Society is always protecting people from themselves,” she said.
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It can be too tempting to grab your phone at bedtime for a quick peek at email and find yourself still scrolling two hours later.
Some research has found that people are happier if they charge their phone overnight somewhere other than in the bedroom.
Geoffrey A. Fowler, The Washington Post technology columnist, bought this pretty $40 box that he keeps in his office for nighttime charging of his family’s devices.
Like Eyal’s automated WiFi shut-off, parking your distracting gadgets away from your bedroom isn’t a magical cure for tech overuse.
But putting speed bumps in the way of bedtime phone scrolling worked for Geoff, and it could be helpful for you.
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